Body Language Primers: Do They Want To Kiss Me?

It’s the pinnacle of the successful first or second date. So much is pinned upon this moment. Maybe you’ll marry this person… maybe not if they fluff it up.There’s a lot leading up to the kiss but in general, there are a few signs to look for when you are waiting to kiss them or waiting to receive the first kiss from them.

The Signs

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Both people are leaning in here, showing interest

If you know what you are looking for, the signs are obvious when it is time to go for the kiss. If your date is flirting with you, asking lots of questions and smiling a lot, they are almost certainly interested in you kissing them. In our progressively equal society, it is okay to initiate a kiss if you are a girl. Whilst guys traditionally have to make the move for the first kiss, if you can’t wait, just go for it. Putting your date at ease and show how much you enjoy being with them will make it easier on them to go for the kiss. When you do this, keep your body language open. Make sure that your arms are not crossed, your attention is on your date and you aren’t doing obvious boredom signs like checking your phone, watching the TV or even looking at their watch.If you haven’t touched or hugged yet, you might be being very optimistic. It’s a rare occurrence for a kiss to happen before you’ve held hands or embraced. It’s fine to initiate physical contact and if you do so, they will probably mirror your behaviour and touch you back.This brings you together, adds intimacy and allows you to get in to each other’s ‘space’.You can tell how interested someone is in you, what you are saying, etc. by how close they are. If they edge away when you get close to them, they don’t want you in their personal space. This amount of space varies from culture to culture, but generally if you are in an arms reach of someone and they don’t show signs of distress, you are in the clear.

It’s All In The Lips

When you are in a location that is good for kissing (i.e partially or entirely private), make lots of eye contact and then look at your partner lips. Make this subtle, rather than overt though. (They might think you odd!)When you do this, their subconscious will pick up on the not-so-subtle hint and it’ll make the idea of kissing you stick in their head. After that point, if they don’t kiss you, they may not be tat interested in you.

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See how she’s smiling? That’s kissing time

Go All-In

Show off where you want their attention to go. Lick, bite or point at your lips, subtly. It’s all about getting the idea in their head by using your body language effectively. If all of these things don’t work, flirting makes no difference and you don’t know what else to do… Just kiss them. There’s a chance they are completely oblivious to all the things you have done to get them to kiss you, or are scared you won’t kiss them back. By you doing the first move, you’ll be able to test whether they really want to kiss you or not.If they don’t want to kiss you, you’ve saved a lot of time trying to get them to kiss you!This might seem overly bold to some of you reading this, especially if you are used to your partners making the first move. Don’t worry, you won’t be thought of badly for trying to kiss your date (isn’t that the point?) and it could be a great part of your life together.Being bold and taking a risk when you are pretty sure it is time to kiss them will work almost all the time. Otherwise, if it doesn’t you can always make your excuses and leave. Realistically though, most people won’t be on a date with you if they don’t anticipate at least a little kissing to go on.

The End Of The Date

Even if you don’t get the kiss on the date, there’s always a chance at the end of the date. Linger at the end of the date so there’s more of a chance for doing so. It’s pretty much guaranteed that you’ll get kissed if they have stayed around for this long and you give them ample opportunity to do so. If there’s still note hope, ask for a goodnight kiss. Just telling them that you want a kiss leaves no more room for interpretation. He’ll kiss you, or he’ll make an excuse. Either way, you get to move on.